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Marie Civali DeCarlo

Marie Assunta Civali DeCarlo

Friday, August 15th, 1924 - Saturday, March 21st, 2020
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Marie Assunta Civali DeCarlo lived a rich and full life. On March 21st, at age 95, she joined her husband, Louis Roy DeCarlo, who predeceased her by 28 years. She was a hilariously pragmatic woman and said of her obituary that it should read “She was born, she lived, she died.” While factually correct, there was so much more to Marie DeCarlo.

A member of the Greatest Generation, Marie was a devoted wife, trailblazing professional, fierce mother, and doting grandmother. She was not a woman of half-measures. Deeply passionate about music and her commitment to providing musical direction as the organist and choir leader at Meriden’s First Congregational Church, Our Lady of Mount Carmel and the Baptist Church in Middlefield, CT she never missed a service or practice. She was a professional, starting her career later in life but becoming a plank holder of the state appellate court and retiring in 2009 at age 85 after 30 years as its chief secretary.

She lived most of her life in Meriden, Connecticut, where she was born the eldest of six to parents Antonio Civali and Margaret Polvani Civali. After the war, she married her high school sweetheart, Lou, and settled down to raise a family. They had three children—Margaret (Peg), Thomas, and Denise—and raised them all into fine, accomplished adults. After seeing her children to adulthood, she and Lou relished traveling abroad, visiting India, Africa, Israel, Egypt and most of Europe. As a first-generation Italian American, she especially delighted in her trips to Italy, where she maintained close ties to her extended family in the north and south of the country.

Marie leaves behind a rich legacy: her elder daughter, Margaret (Peg), and her husband, Ed Copelin, of Leesburg, FL; a son, Thomas DeCarlo and his wife, Deborah, of Meriden, CT; and her younger daughter, Denise, and her husband, Gordon Rathbun, of Hebron, CT. Marie had five grandchildren: Clark Copelin (Abby) of New York, NY; Russell Copelin (Lindsey) of Fairbanks, AK; Emma Saltonstall (Steve) of Hebron, CT; Molly Rathbun Foley (William) of Hebron CT; and Annie Rathbun of Hebron, CT. Lastly, Marie had two great grandchildren, Louis and Lincoln Copelin of New York, NY, and she was eagerly anticipating the birth of Emma’s son, which will be her third. She is survived by her sisters, Gloria Ragozzino, Joyce Ragozzino and Andrea McCusker, and predeceased by brothers Joe Civali and Al Civali. She also leaves behind many beloved nieces and nephews.

Marie Civali DeCarlo leaves us a litany of accomplishments and laid out a blueprint for a life lived richly. She was our matriarch, our role model, and our greatest champion. Her absence leaves a hole that can never be filled, but the warm glow of her memory will give comfort and strength to those she knew and generations to come. We will try and live by her imperative to ‘Make Memories’ every day of our lives. It is those memories that we all made with our mother and grandmother that will sustain us.

The family is very thankful for the outstanding love and compassion provided by Chestelm Long Term Care in Moodus, CT. A special thank you to Dawn, Nancy, Rachel, Bernadette and Janice, and the many other wonderful people who went out of their way to bring joy to her life.

There will be no wake or funeral services at this time. Details of a celebration of life will follow at a later date. Donations in Marie's memory can be made to The Pat Tillman Foundation at which was instrumental in supporting Marie’s grandson, Clark, in pursuing his graduate studies after his service in Iraq and Afghanistan or to Fisher House Foundation at
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Suzanne Godau

Posted at 06:54pm
To the Ragozzino Family,
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved Aunt and sister. My heart is with you at this very difficult time. Gloria, I often think of you and hope you are doing well during this very trying time. May she rest in peace and may you all keep her close to your hearts.
Suzanne Godau

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Posted at 03:50pm
We will always remember you, Auntie Marie! You made us laugh! We hope this tribute makes you smile! Love, Patti Gronback and Pam Maniscalco
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john j adamski

Posted at 07:32am
Peggy, Tom and Denise,
From the Adamski Family our thoughts and prayers are with you. I will always remember your mom as a women who loved life. Her music brought smiles to people when it was a happy time and tears when sadness prevailed. She was a true music professional. She was, to this day, the best organist to ever play at Mt. Carmel Church. She will now be playing for a heavenly congregation that includes your dad. Heaven is an even better place today.

John Adamski

Priscilla Rice Posted at 09:22am

I never knew Marie personally but have the privilege of friendship with the special family she created. Her piano was generously passed down to my 9-year-old granddaughter who daily channels Marie's legacy. Condolences and love to the family. Priscilla Rice

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